Womankind Part II A Reflection
In life the feminine arts are the essence of enjoying life to its utmost level.
The fairer and intuitive sex: Women are one step ahead of men and instinctively have a feel for a man’s character and attributes. Traditionally the man proposes matrimony but the woman knows it is coming. How often does the feminine sex turn down the offer of marriage, nowadays rarely. In Jane Austen’s novels more frequently. Once the man and woman have agreed on marital union little will stand in their way. The woman’s father is unlikely to object if his daughter is intent on tying the knot. The Church: Catholic or Anglican will go with the happy couple. The Civil Law can be properly put right for the marriage to proceed. It is almost too easy to marry. Marry at once repent at leisure. There are many examples of happy marriages thanks to the bride’s strength of character inspiring her husband’s life.
2. What is the role of woman in matrimony?
To inspire and strengthen her husband through thick and thin. Marriage is not a bed of roses but with a strong woman it can grow to greatness. The constant daily contact man and wife and joining in social intercourse within the couple’s circle provides enormous impetus to the union. It is no good expecting the man to be like his spouse – a married man will have his proper objectives to prepare his way towards. The career woman likewise. Each wifely spouse should be encouraged by their husband in their vocation. I put greater emphasis on vocation rather than job satisfaction for the wife. To be worthy of the title spouse the woman should aspire to her calling supported by her husband not a life of undiluted salaried employment. Married life then becomes enlivened and animated. The marriage breathes the oxygen of true independent union based on proper values.
3. How do women deal with relationship breakdown?
This will be distressing, disappointing and traumatising, howsoever brought about. Young children may become confused and disoriented in its wake. Women will formulate a positive way forward out of the disagreements. They are naturally constructive and affectionate. They will not be beaten down by a break up testing though it will be. Women gather a circle of friends in their lives to support them in troubled times. The gift of true friendship is very much a feminine quality.
4. The religious aspect of womanhood.
This centres on the mother of God – Mary and her life story. She was given the ultimate calling and accepted freely and wholeheartedly followed by a simple family life in Nazareth. Her only Son was Himself called to serve His Father and Mary saw Him brutally crucified only to rise again on the third day and in due course ascend into Heaven. She herself was to die yet her body never to be corrupted and to be assumed into Heaven. An extraordinary story a little removed from the modern age and the lives of women today. The message is never stop being surprised and surprising yourself. We will not have to cope with crucifixions but we would do well to be ready for the unexpected. Also be inventive yet prepared for the run of the mill. There can be no reward without properly earned respect. Not everyone will pray with Mary but her presence still fills our beings.
5. The achievements of women through the centuries.
I think of Elizabeth 1, the Tudor Queen, who gave her life to her country and remained single for her Anglicanism. She remains enigmatic in her faith – Roman Catholic by inclination – Anglican per force. Her public duty took precedence over her private Catholic leanings. She would not be narrowed down. She was a true child of her father’s Protestant faith and his great friend Sir Thomas More’s affirmation for the Papacy. Latterly I contemplate the 19th Century St. Thérèse of Lisieux and her self-denying humility with her death in her early 20’s. The Tudor Queen Elizabeth was no nun but she did deny herself many selfish aims. To Thérèse it was a pleasure to be humble for humility’s sake. Two self-effacing women in different milieus. We have still not reached modern woman.
6. Modern Woman
This woman is hidden from view because women do not boast nor state their own virtues. Margaret Thatcher is misunderstood – she wanted nothing for herself and everything for her party and her country. She may have sounded strident but she was a leader and lead from the front – that required clarity of vision and the ability to communicate her message publicly. Margaret Thatcher’s underlying self-sacrificing character was hidden under her so called abrasive self. She is a very good example of a leader in action. She never lapsed into inaction for all her long years in power and politics. She lived and breathed action - that was her greatness; Action for others not herself.
7. Aims of modern women – Conclusion
The classic and well-trodden career path is understood. I argue women should not imitate men but seek their own identity and characteristics born of understanding their feminine side. That is the essence of womanhood not slavish pursuit of the masculine goals so overdone by men. Women have so much to offer it would be tragedy for the male orthodoxy to dominate their lives. The astute and real acumen of women is found in the world of work I do not dispute and rightly so. I say God did not only make woman to be man’s best friend, He also made woman to challenge and even oppose man. That way life for man and woman will be truly enriched.